tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post8575885787487460096..comments2023-05-01T02:15:08.005-07:00Comments on Gwen's WLS Journey: Sea ChangeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-63014689976711946402009-01-20T15:37:00.000-08:002009-01-20T15:37:00.000-08:00Gwen, so sorry for this!! You are brave posting th...Gwen, so sorry for this!! You are brave posting this on your blog and you know that your readers care about you. I know this is hard, but things will work out. Time is sometimes what is needed to figure out what you are going to and how the situation will remedy. I can't imagine how you are feeling but I know that part of you must feel very betrayed. I wish you the best. keep us posted!Inspirationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09510120862114406511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-53396376702428543642009-01-17T18:25:00.000-08:002009-01-17T18:25:00.000-08:00My poor Gwen. This absolutely sucks! I, unfortun...My poor Gwen. This absolutely sucks! I, unfortunately, come from a long line of addicts and am married to an alcoholic. My addiction is food. My mother and brother, heroin; My sister, meth; The journey living with someone with an addiction is difficult. Hell, I had my wedding ring off my finger for a number of years because of it. Stay in school, focus on your health and well being, and keep the lines of communication open between you and your man. The death of the marriage comes when the communication dies...at least that's what happened in our marriage. We work every day to keep it. <BR/><BR/>My prayers and thoughts are with you always. As far as advice goes...when offered, take what you can use and leave the rest. Stay in school and pamper yourself. Love yourself.Dizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10335788835759443835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-3528443144455651082009-01-17T01:14:00.000-08:002009-01-17T01:14:00.000-08:00Gwen,I am so, so sorry to hear this. I have no wor...Gwen,<BR/><BR/>I am so, so sorry to hear this. I have no words for you. I have relatives who struggle with drug and alcohol addictions and it is not easy, ever, regardless, and a spouse is surely more difficult than any other relationship.<BR/><BR/>My words are simply comments on a blog, but my wish, my hopes for you are peace, clarity, and safety. And yes indeed, you must stay in school. You must.<BR/><BR/>Reach out for help for yourself when you need it, or even if you think you don't.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/><BR/>JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-28091919395490521882009-01-15T21:25:00.000-08:002009-01-15T21:25:00.000-08:00I have read your blog for a few weeks now and only...I have read your blog for a few weeks now and only finally comments...tend to lurk....<BR/>I am so sorry for all you are going through...addictions are tough. Take care of yourself...the rest will fall in place with time...and work...in whatever path you may choose this to lead you.Mandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17522399455358014836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-65301947679464454312009-01-15T20:25:00.000-08:002009-01-15T20:25:00.000-08:00First of all Gwen, *BIG HUGS*. I too wondered whet...First of all Gwen, *BIG HUGS*. I too wondered whether I should be as frank and honest as I have been of late on my blog, but you're right, readers are sometimes friends that can provide support.<BR/><BR/>As you know, I am an addict. I struggle with alcohol and have been known to hurt those close to me with my behaviour when I drink.<BR/><BR/>While you care for your hubby, you also need to care for yourself. My husband knows when I am crossing the line and always pulls me back. Its kind of an unspoken agreement we have thats evolved over time and I know that if I don't make the decision to be present in our relationship when he calls me on my shit, then I will lose him. I know its all too easy for him to walk away when I am in the depths of my addiction.<BR/><BR/>Addiction is a life long thing, and your husband has to make a decision on his own and for himself in how he is going to deal with it. That is the first step. Nothing you can say or do will make that easier for him. Addiction is like a yearning inside of you that just cannot be satiated. Its something that is always there, like a tiny voice willing you to do what ever it is that you're addicted to. Its like being possessed. And going against that is like the worst hunger a person could ever feel. It absolutely consumes you.<BR/><BR/>Whatever you decide to do, whether you stand by him and allow him to try to win back your trust, or choose to move on and forward on your own we are here for you. Please know that. You are not alone xoxShe Smileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05865965276452068532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5911681794668520002.post-40631868552025718242009-01-15T14:45:00.000-08:002009-01-15T14:45:00.000-08:00Gwen:I'm sending positive, healing thoughts your w...Gwen:<BR/>I'm sending positive, healing thoughts your way. It's brave of you to be putting your stuff out there, but I and many others can identify. Thanks for your honesty. Take good care.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08546379271298607193noreply@blogger.com