I love Pinterest. Seriously.
But damn, some people and their blogs. I love and hate all the home improvement and decorating pins on there. I was fantasizing last night about artfully photographing my home last night and featuring it on my own blog. All perfect lighting and Instagrammed just so...to show off my living room with the one mismatched cabinet next to the fireplace in the hole where the built-in bookcases should have been (but a previous owner ripped them out)...the built-ins that someday I plan to have rebuilt when I can afford it but not going to DIY because really? I have 2 jobs and a toddler. My dining room which looks reasonably nice when it is picked up, but almost always is covered in stacks of mail and things that haven't found a home yet. The walls that are all still painted in the previous owners' colors, and mostly blank walls that we haven't chosen photos or artwork to frame and decorate yet. And yes, we have lived here for over 3 years now. Our couches that we have had for 8 years, bought second-hand, with the tear in the leather, that don't fit the house and need replacing. The basement "bar" that got ripped out, and the half-completed half wall built to cover the hole in the sink cabinet where the bar was removed...still in need of tiling and drywall on the outside, and painting. The original (?) linoleum on the stair landing where we had to rip out the carpet and padding because the cat randomly decided to pee on it for a MONTH (despite my desperate efforts during that whole time to dissuade her and clean up the stench). The basement bathroom tub that needs a new faucet set because the handle came off last year and can't be replaced except with an entirely new set, so we've been using a Vice-Grips as a handle. For a year.
So much in our home is half-baked plans and vague ideas and budget constraints. Overall, it is really a lovely house, and it is usually mostly picked up and presentable, despite the expected smattering of toddler toys in each room. But as I curate my favorite DIY home improvement projects, most of which I know I will never, ever do, it makes me see my home differently: not the sweet older home in an old neighborhood that I love, but as a list of projects and budget shortfalls that seem like they will never get done. I think my home is a lot more typical for a working family than the ones I see on Pinterest. And a lot of people talk about their home being like this, but who photographs it and publishes it? Really? Actually I think that would be a pretty fun project. This is real, yo. Who has time to rubber-stamp cute phrases on matching wooden hangers for their perfect closet makeover? Or my personal favorite, a roll-out "emergency sidewalk" made of pallets and old fire hoses so you can walk in your yard after a flood. Really, old fire hoses? I was wondering what to do with all of those. I actually left a comment on that one: Where do you get old fire hoses? The replies were "An old fire house!" and "At an auction!" Which is basically like saying, "When you don't have toddlers anymore, lady!" Or for me, never, since I can't see myself at an auction bidding on an old fire hose. Ever.
I know backlash against Pinterest is nothing new, and I honestly think it is a great site and I use a lot of the things I pin, especially recipes and sewing ideas. But some days I really do just shake my head at some of the stuff, and then I step away to get some perspective. We do enough. We have enough. We are enough. Repeat.